Child molesters

Информация о растлителях несовершеннолетних (англ.).

 

What you need to know to help safeguard your child

  • Child molesters - who they are.
  • The identifying characteristics of the child molester.
  • The kinds of traps he sets for your children - and where he sets them.
  • How to choose a Day Care Center.
  • Instructing your children what to watch for, and how to act if he or she is approached.
  • Critical safety tips for parents.
  • What to do if your child is molested.
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    CORRECTING THE MYTHS

    The mere mention of child molestation strikes us with fear. Our first response is likely to be one of denial: this could never happen in my family - I don't have to be concerned about this in my community. We have been using denial, as individuals and as a society, to escape the truth, at great expense to our children.
    When faced with a medical epidemic in this country the Centers for Disease Control will take immediate steps to educate the public against the spread of the disease. An epidemic of child molestation is spreading across America yet few people are aware that 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 7 boys will be molested before age 18. [1] And molestation is never a one-time incident for the victim. Children do not get over molestation as they do a virus. We are a country populated by millions of adult victims who continue to bear the emotional scars of childhood sexual abuse, and the casualties of this generation of children increases daily.
    We would do well to draw upon the wisdom of the English statesman, Disraeli, who once told Queen Victoria, "The one with the most knowledge has the greatest advantage." There is no better place to apply this logic than in the protection of our children - no better place to begin than correct the myths which contribute to our false sense of security until someone we love is affected.

  • Molestation occurs in all income and racial groups, from infancy through adulthood.
  • The majority of molesters are known by their victims.
  • You may never know that your child is a victim.
  • Children are not likely to lie about sexual abuse.
  • Children do not outgrow the traumatic effects of molestation.
  • DEFINING MOLESTATION

    Molestation occurs when an adult or person significantly older than a child engages in sexual activity with a minor. The abuse can be over an extended period of time, or a one time incident, and includes touching, fondling, kissing in a sexual manner, oral sex, masturbation, digital or penile penetration of rectum or vagina.
    The 1992 rape survey conducted by the National Victim Center reported that 29% of all rapes occurred when the victim was less than eleven years old, another 32% occurred between the ages of 11 and 17.
     

    CHILD MOLESTERS - WHO ARE THEY?

    It is not enough to warn a child to stay away from strangers. The majority of children are molested by those they know and trust - but may not be known by other family members. We also have a lesser known but growing category of molesters: children who perpetrate sexual crimes upon children younger than themselves.

  • The U.S. Department of Justice reported four million child molesters reside in this country. [2]
  • Almost half of all sex offenders are under 18. [3]
  • Ten years ago we had twenty-two rehabilitation programs for juvenile sex offenders - we now have 755. [4]
  • New York rape arrests of thirteen year old males increased 200% between 1986 and 1988. [5]
  • 57% of child molesters were molested themselves as children. [6]
  • A typical molester will abuse between 30 to 60 children before they are arrested - as many as 380 during their lifetime. [7]
  • The current threat and what lies ahead of us as a nation is staggering. We owe it to our children to remember that the next generation of molesters is coming out of this generation, and to act accordingly.


    CHARACTERISTICS OF MOLESTERS

  • Can have adult sex partners, but children are primary sex object.
  • Have lifestyles which give them easy access to children.
  • Target specific gender, age, hair and eye color.
  • Use threats to manipulate and control victims - or bribe them with gifts, love or promises to lure victims into their confidence before victimization takes place.
  • May commit first offense when in teens.
  • Continue behavior even after conviction and treatment.
  • Are mostly males, but females also molest.
  • May video or photograph sexual activity with children to exchange with other molesters and/or shame child into not telling anyone of the abuse.
  • Some molesters network with pornographers and their pictures are used for commercial child pornography. Pictures are also traded with others interested in sex with children and become part of the cottage child pornography industry.
  • ATTITUDE OF MOLESTERS

  • Have no trouble legitimizing their actions, but may demonstrate remorse if arrested although they actually see nothing wrong with what they have done.
  • Have no thought for the emotional/physical impact on a child.
  • Blame the child for wearing inappropriate clothes, acting in a certain way, or say that because the child did not resist they consented.
  • Molesters gain access to children through volunteer and professional occupations as well as their own neighborhoods. They are skilled at developing relationships with children, often supplying needs which are not being met at home. Children are easily seduced into believing that it is okay for adults to have sex with children - it is a good way to learn about sex - and it is normal for adults to show affection this way.
    All forms of pornography (magazines, videos, comic books, trading cards and computer porn) are widely used to condition the victim and legitimize the sexual behavior.

     An abductor preys upon children who:

  • take shortcuts to school
  • look depressed
  • are loners
  • appear unkempt, neglected or unsupervised
  • frequent video arcades
  • Abductors often use uniforms and badges of authority to convince a child to go with them, using statements such as "your parents have been in an accident and you are wanted at the hospital."

    The most often used traps include asking for help in finding a lost puppy, carrying books and groceries, or asking for directions. Young children are lured by money, toys, candy, or promises of puppies and kittens, older children by money, drugs, alcohol and promises of movie careers.

    Molesters take advantage of the fact that children are taught to look up to authority figures and respect and obey adults. A child is not prepared when a relative, neighbor or other acquaintance makes sexual advances. The best way to deal with the problem is before it occurs.

    We can alert our children to danger without frightening them. Explain that most adults are dedicated to their protection and welfare, but there are some people who are not. Telling a child to look both ways when crossing the street does not create a fear of cars - it prevents serious injury. As parents we are obligated to give our children survival skills in all areas of life.

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